I am a 54 year old single female, raising my grandson and they are going to take my bladder and maybe more. I am so scared, ashamed, alone, and feel as though I will never find someone to be intimate with again. :'( I have to decide what kind of reconstruction I want and am leaning toward the neobladder. I keep reading about leakage problems with other systems. I know I have to have this done as I have stage 2 invasive cancer. It is still contained thank God! but I want it out asap before it can spread beyond the walls.