My dad, possibly the most independent man on the planet, has been diagnosed with Stage 2 bladder cancer. This diagnosis came after his being ill for so long he finally asked for help - which means he must have felt terrible for a long time before he called me - and spent 3 weeks in the hospital getting tests and balancing electrolytes, etc.
My dad is 77 years old, has lived alone for over 35 years (by choice), and takes care of a farm by himself. He's kind, supportive, funny, charismatic, and stubborn as a mule. He's never shared health issues with any of us 3 daughters, his family, or his wife (my mom) when he had one. That means I learned of his 16 year history with prostate cancer from the urgent care doctor. He never called about the radiation, the procedures, his struggles, his hospital stays, nothing. And we are together often on weekends and for all holidays, and in touch via phone as often as possible.
He's since had a bit of reality hit him pretty hard, and now he wants me to take care of him and help out and be his support - which I am thankful to be able to do and grateful that he's choosing me. So he's had this diagnosis and they want to remove his prostate and bladder - and he refuses to do chemo so there's really only one other option which I very much hope he doesn't choose - and I just want to know how much his life will be affected. How involved should I plan to be? I have teenage kids, I just graduated nursing school at 40 years old, I am also independent, but ready and willing to move mountains in order to be able to care for dad. So the issue isn't what happens to me but more what shall I prepare for? I appreciate anyone who's read this far and has any advice, information, stories, or otherwise.
Thank you.