Welcome to the forum. After reading your multiple posts I think you are reacting like most of us after our initial visit to the Urologist and discovering that we had an issue.
From my short experience (2 TURBT's and 15 BCG treatments) the best feedback I can offer is to relax and let the Dr. do his job. You will not have any idea what you are dealing with until your TUR and pathology report. If you have a Low Grade result then you might not have any ongoing treatment but a periodic checkup. If High Grade, then the Path report will most likely determine you future treatment. At this point everything is simply speculation.
I totally understand your panic and fear but the best thing you can do at this point is try to relax. No use worrying about something that is at this point unknown. Life goes on regardless of the results.
I'd been complaining for two years to my GP about these symptoms. She ordered a PSA test which came out normal and then summed it up that I have in large prostrate. A month ago I told her I I want to see your urologist. The Urologist found a small tumor a few days ago in my bladder and scheduled a resection procedure to remove it in one month from now. I assume the urologist didn't think the tumor was a big deal. However I'm an absolute panic mode and I'm grateful for this site.