Amazesq3,
You seem to have described your main issue when you said, " i feel that I am not getting the right answers".
As a BC patient,I want to know EVERYTHING my care team knows and sees about my cancer treatment. I expect copies of all biopsy reports, radio-graphic studies and cytology results etc to be proved to me. At every consult and following any major news from tests, I expect to be told how that new information will impact MY treatment.
Bladder cancer is a participant activity. You should be receiving treatment options from your doctors based on your concerns and self reported feelings about your treatment. You do need to make your concerns heard loud and clear if necessary.
Hopefully, you know what is planned for the upcoming operation, what it is intended to address, what you should expect afterwards, what symptoms are critical to report immediately, and what can wait until your scheduled follow up appointment.
You have the right to have all of your questions answered, completely, and in a way that you understand.
It may be helpful to make a list of questions for which you do NOT have a answer that seems right to you. Schedule an appointment to review your list and discuss your care. It is your body - you will be asked to sign papers stating that you understand proposed treatment and have discussed other options. Make sure that you get to a position where you are comfortable with the care you are receiving.
You need to keep asking questions until you get the right answers. You are the only person who can make that happen.
Best,
Jack