I am sorry to read of your husband's diagnosis. I will tell you my husband was diagnosed with stage IV, high grade TCC BC back in July 2010. After having a RC/IC followed by 6+ months of chemo he is very much alive and well today. It isn't an easy journey but one that if you are with good doctors will be need to be done. When we receive that sort of diagnosis it's imperative to get to the best doctors you can. Are you located near a good hospital medical center?
My husband was diagnosed aggressive high grade T4. What can we expect? Chemo starts tomorrow and surgery next year. I see all these signatures T1, T2 T3 every once in awhile. T4 is bad I know. Where are the T4 survivors?