You are right that a neobladder has a "problematic" reputation in women. I hope
that someone with a successful one will chime in, but.....
IF you decide to go that route, be sure that a. you are at a facility and with a surgeon who has done MANY of them and b. ask to speak with several women who have successful neobladders.
Our president, Cynthia, has an Indiana and is very content with it. She has told her story several times in the Forum so try searching for her posts.
Good luck to you. You are doing absolutely the right thing in researching this.
Sara Anne