As all of us would say, sorry you are here but, glad you found us. I am sorry to read about your father's situation. He is fortunate to have a loving (I couldn't discern if you are a son or daughter) and caring family. It does appear from your post that palliative care per his urologist is the correct move however, one day at a time until the scan is read. If the decision is palliative, your local Hospice are very wonderful people. Hospice was involved with a sister some 23 years ago (she was 34 from breast cancer)and, two parents who passed ironically at age 88 a few years ago. How long of course depends on what the scan shows. None of us have a lock on time. Love him as you are obviously are doing and cherish each day!