Hi Lelly... I understand feeling that your life is upside down. A cancer diagnosis is the scariest health issue we are faced with, be it ourselves or a loved one.
To answer your question, my tumor was a "lone wolf" being a primary tumor confined to the bladder with no further indication of cancer elsewhere. It was located in the dome right between the ureters which gave the surgeon room to make the bladder wall resection.
With your tumor near the ureter, and cancer cells elsewhere, that likely would not be a candidate for doing the partial (my assessment only), but that doesn't mean you shouldn't ask. Stage T2 is invasive and divided into two classifications. T2a (mine) means invasion past the inner lining into the first half of the bladder muscle, and T2b into the second half of the muscle but not yet into the fatty outside layer (T3).
I am glad you are seeing a second highly recommended uro. If bladder removal is needed to rid your body of the cancer, that is probably the scariest and most unexpected thing you ever thought you'd be dealing with. I know it's hard to comprehend much during the shock and confusion of the first days/weeks after diagnosis, but be assured there are many here who have been though it and can help you understand the process and answer your questions. One thing they will say is that you want a surgeon who does the procedure you are having many times a year, somewhere in the neighborhood of 50 or more.
As far as chemo, newer studies have shown that chemo prior to a radical cystectomy can lessen chances of recurrences later elsewhere in the body from cells that might have escaped the bladder before removal, or chemo afterward may also be beneficial. I assume from your first post you meant they were looking at chemo before surgery. It sounds like your medical team is responding quickly in developing a treatment plan. Whatever questions you have at this point, write them down before your appointments because I know from experience, it is hard to remember everything when you're in the doctor's office. Take notes as well.
Please stay connected to the forum and let us know how things are going. You can say or ask anything here, or just vent your frustrations/worries that you might not want to voice to your loved ones. I hope you have a strong network of family and friends to lean on as you go through this... and now you are part of our family so you have us too.