It sure sounds like your urologist is correct and that it is time for bladder removal.
I had mine out five years ago. I still remember most of it however and I did post a lot back then asking questions prior to and after my surgery. A few of us posted a lot about our surgery and recovery. Ask us anything you need/want/can think of. We are happy to help.
Where do you live? You want someone who does at least 50 of these surgeries a year. Also, depending on the type of diversion you get, you want someone with particular expertise in that type of diversion. The more they do, the better the outcome. Lots of studies behind that statement.
You also want what is called the "nerve sparing" surgery. That is, they save the nerve bundles from the prostate. This is so you can still remain sexually active later. It may take some time for things to work properly but if done right, the nerve sparing allows for that. Of course, being alive is the first priority so getting the bladder out is also important.
You may have to do some chemo rounds prior to the surgery. That depends on the current stage/grade but it has shown better numbers when people get chemo prior to the surgery. I did not. However, mine came back after 4 and half years after my cystectomy. That's not supposed to happen but I wound up having to go through full chemo when it came back and my current status is "all clear".
It's been seven years since bladder cancer and I first came across each other. I've kicked it's butt three times so far!
Welcome to the site and please ask anything and everything you can think of. Knowledge is power and it helps to defeat worry and fear. Getting the best surgeon with high volumes of surgeries is the other key thing needed to win!
So sorry to see you here, but Welcome anyway! Your latest diagnosis is NOT what you wanted to hear, I know.
This would be the ideal time to get a second opinion at a place that specializes in bladder cancer treatment. A second opinion is NOT a repudiation of your current doctor....the best possible outcome would be confirmation that your urologist is doing the right thing and is current with the latest practice in this area. The second best thing would be that if he ISN'T, you would find out what a better approach might be. My urologist told me that, if it ever came to a recommendation for bladder removal, he would INSIST that I get a second opinion. If you should wish to do this, if you let us know where you are located, some of our members might have recommendations as to places you might go.
There is a TON of information in this forum on cystectomy and the options you might have. There is also a lot of information under the Forum heading about "MEN and bladder cancer". Feel free to ask all the questions you want....someone where has "been there, done that.'
Diagnosis 2-08 Small papillary TCC; CIS
BCG; BCG maintenance
Vice-President, American Bladder Cancer Society
I was diagnosed with cancer about a year ago. I've done BCG treatments 3 different times and had three surgeries to remove tumors and now my Dr. says that bladder removal is next. I'm very unsure how to deal with this.
I'm 52, male, and there are so many things running through my head. I don't know anyone in the area to talk to that can help me with what to expect.