i'm a little late getting in here, but i would definatel set up an appointment for a second opinion right now with Memorial Sloan who deal with bladder cancer on a daily basis. I wouldn't be surprised if your pathology was even sent to them. Once you get your pathology report call pathology and have them pack up the slides for transport to MSK if not already there and get copies of your Ct scan, or any other tests done.
My recommendations would be Dr. Bernard Bochner, Dr. Harry Herr, Dr. Machele Donat
Dr. Bochner..very personable..will take lots of time with you
www.mskcc.org/prg/prg/bios/616.cfm
Dr. Herr..a man of few words but a billiant surgeon
www.mskcc.org/prg/prg/bios/54.cfm
Dr. Donat..very good with females
www.mskcc.org/prg/prg/bios/335.cfm
Hope all goes well for you but you really must seek out a specialist that deals with this on a daily basis.
pat