Eileen
Welcome to the site. Sorry to hear your story though. It is a familiar story for us.
First of all. Once the enormous surprise has stopped hitting you, it is time to take a few DEEP Breaths. You are going to survive this. With the help of your Dr. and your own powerful will, You will put this behind you.
Mike has posted a chart on this site of the "path of Bladder cancer Care." It will help you follow along the course of treatment. Find this chart. It will help you plan ahead and chart your progress.
This site is filled with people who have survived bladder cancer in its many forms. We have come out the other side as "super determined" survivors who are bent on helping you too. Their stories and advice are often serious and unforgiving. We can also be a cheer squad for you when you need that. (Kind of like a 5 hour energy drink) We can even be humorous about all of this.
Please keep us in you loop..... once you have us on your side we can be kind of relentless in our efforts to get you cancer free!
George