Alan thanks for the quick response.
Pat I am very proud of my Son it was so hard telling both the boys. I am so glad that Dr. Smith said that i could go to his grad before the long journey begins We will be with the grandsons
the night before his graduation while he does his Dining out with his wife.
I would like to ask how hard is the recovery of this surgery I know i will not have a cath in my urethra or at least i dont think i will. I read somewhere that you could have one to drain fluid from the pelvic cavity. I also read that you have two Jpegs, a matlock tube and then drains in the stoma. Lots of tubes for at least 3 weeks. I was in such shock even though i wrote down lots of questions i could not ask them. I can call his nurse and ask as many questions as i would like so if i dont get the answers here i will do that. He is going to keep me off work for 8 weeks. Anyway lots going on in my head. Trying to be strong for everyone else (kids, neice,mom etc..)and also trying not to fall apart what a day. Thanks guys for any insight