You can't make any treatment decisions until you know your pathology. Stage (how far it has invaded into the bladder and surrounding layers) is more important than grade. I had high grade tumors but my cancer was superficial (non-invasive) not having even gone through the lamina propria. I was treated with intravesical chemo (mitomycin C) although most in that situation are treated with BCG. That was 9 years ago.
Invasive cancer requires more aggressive therapy including removal of the bladder. Radiation is not used to treat bladder cancer and might do more harm than good. I don't know if radiation is used on lymph nodes for invasive cancer, but irradiating the bladder is a bad idea.
Getting a second opinion is always a good idea, but unless you have invasive cancer you probably don't need to consult an oncologist. You should make sure you're seeing a urologist who has lots of experience treating bladder cancer, preferably at a university hospital.
To the best of my knowledge there is no relationship between cervical cancer and bladder cancer, even though they're in the same general area. Most cervical cancer is caused by human papilloma virus (HPV).
I always had major bladder spasms when things were done to my bladder. Ask your doctor about medication to relieve the spasms. There are many such as Detrol, Vesicare, Urelle.
More than 2 weeks sounds like a long time to wait for a report unless the lab is extraordinarily busy. I knew my results in less than a week. Can you speak directly to the pathologist?
-Warren
TaG3 + CIS 12/2000. TURB + Mitomycin C (No BCG)
Urethral stricture, urethroplasty 10/2009
CIS 11/2010 treated with BCG. CIS 5/2012 treated with BCG/interferon
T1G3 1/2013. Radical Cystectomy 3/5/2013, No invasive cancer. CIS in right ureter.
Incontinent. AUS implant 2/2014. AUS explant 5/2014
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