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Talking about your cancer and how you are treated

9 years 8 months ago #29425 by Webs
Calypso,

Depends on who I am talking to. Like you I have a husband that hides his head in the sand. Luckily I have friends here and in real life to talk to.

He still gets a surprised look on his face when I tell him that he has to do something now because I can't :P Never did take back the yardwork job. B)

Every once in a while he asks for info and I give it to him. Mostly he does not ask. He says that if it is important he figures I will tell him.

Webs

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9 years 8 months ago #29419 by GKLINE
I know I already weighed in with this topic but I had to add a further comment.
Since we just passed the Christmas season, I had to share.
The day after Christmas we thoroughly cleaned up the house and were left with a HUGGGEEE pile of wrapping paper, boxes and etc. My wife looked at the pile....looked at me....looked at the pile, and said "Ok, you can have your old job back now! Get that pile to the dumpster!"
I guess she has finally given me the green light. I am officially of the "watch list" I am back to "normal"
And It feels so good.

We used to talk about cancer regularly. We were afraid! Now we still talk....We just talk.....about everything else.

Light a man a fire and he is warm for an evening.
Light a man ON fire and he's warm forever.

08/08/08...RC neo bladder
09/09/09...New Hip
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9 years 8 months ago #29416 by calypso
Would you believe - I have trouble talking with my husband about my bladder cancer situations. :S I am the calm one and he is the hyper type A. Usually he is the one with issues and rarely me. I just couldn't tell him the worst thoughts :X I was having along the way; I really don't think he could have handled it. He usually is the "ostrich who buries his head in the sand", preferring to know as little as possible about uncomfortable situations. So, I gloss over any test results for him. I don't lie - just don't give the nasty details.
Any thoughts? :unsure:

"You can't smooth out the surf, but you can learn to ride the waves."

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9 years 10 months ago #28555 by DougG
Doug has had 6 surgeries and still doesn't feel comfortable with a lot of people knowing. I haven't told my boss about the last 5 surgeries...just told them I needed to take vacation. There are certain groups that he doesn't mind knowing....the beekeepers are fine (2 of them go to the same uro with different problems) as are the square dancers. He didn't want the minister in our last church to know, but has no problem with the ministers in the church we're in now knowing, but he doesn't want it announced at church. So many people don't understand bladder cancer and sometimes, we get tired of trying to explain it. I guess it all depends on the person....

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9 years 10 months ago #28554 by vgau
One of my close friends bought us matching bracelets that say "Embrace the journey". At this point I can't wear that reminder every day and don't know how to explain that to her.

I'm sure you are right and things will die down when I learn more and they see I'm ok.

I saw the wife of my old principal in the grocery store and she was amazed that I was walking so well. As we talked she shared that she expected me to be walking all bent over...crazy ideas.

Dx 10/5 Non Invasive Papillary

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9 years 10 months ago #28553 by vgau
Mike,
You are a riot.

I am sure that I will get a second opinion. I don't know if I want to travel to another city for my doctor so that might be out.

However, I feel pretty comfortable with my doctor. He was trained at Vanderbilt and even talked to me about second opinions and that it would not hurt his feelings.

Vi

Dx 10/5 Non Invasive Papillary

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