i havent really not told the truth, to my son, his grandad does have a bad leg still, as the tumour is invading his artery, and preventing the blood flow , from his leg back up , i just havent told him whats causing , the leg problems , and once we know what treatment and if it can be operated on then , i will tell him the whole truth , as long as my dad agrees to this , he has to look at my son knowing he knows and be able to deal with this , before my son knows , they are extremly close more like father /son , with my partner my son knew everything there was to know and that maybe he could get better or maybe he wouldnt , my son continued to see my partner up untill 5 days before he died , he didnt want to see him lying there unable to communicate , and knew that at any time he would be gone from us , at the moment i dont feel it is the right time to tell my son ,yes theres never a right time to tell any one , BUT , it is still less than 2 weeks since my partner died , and his funeral is not untill next tuesday ,so at the moment i cant put my son through the whole truth , as i said before my son is a bright boy , and he doesnt realise anything other than the blood clot is a problem , had he have done so then i wouldnt have been able to not tell him , as we are open with each other and he would realise that i was keeping something fron him , the hospital appointments are checking his leg , which isnt a whole lie as the kidney is causing the leg problems .