Debbie,
Sorry you and your spouse must go through yet another cancer experience...hopefully the path report will be good news. My doctor told me that I had probably had my cancer 18 months to 2 years before it was discovered. What led me to my investigation was a minor discomfort in my pelvic area but I thought really that it was related to my ovaries. As women we have so many GYN concerns that yes, bladder cancer can be initally overlooked. And so, of course, when a doctor hears of blood in the urine for a male, that gets much more attention. I have to say, however, that I have heard both males and females tell me they have seen blood in their urine for years and it's no big deal. For me, it would be a BIG deal, and I finally saw blood last Valentines Day...that is what finally got me to my diagnosis.
Hang in there and let us know how things go. Take care, Melodie