I was so sorry to read your post. It is impossible to help someone who is in denial or who doesn't want to help themselves. The only thing you can do is to stay strong for your boys and be sure to keep your job since you will be supporting them.
Wish I could suggest a magic potion to solve this problem for you.
Sara Anne
Diagnosis 2-08 Small papillary TCC; CIS
BCG; BCG maintenance
Vice-President, American Bladder Cancer Society
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