Lisaloo,
I am so happy to see you have brought up this subject...I have been wanting to ask the same questions. You are so cute! Being so careful in how you worded your concern...reminds me of myself 6 months ago when I had the same question...was worried about bringing that subject up on the forum and so sent Wendy a PM...she suggested a dialator...and I did try one as my spouse and I previously had a rather active sex life.
I must say, however, that although I was willing, I had no real desire from a physical standpoint and made very little progress. I know I should keep trying but it just seems so uncomfortable and takes more effort than I had expected...and I guess after working so hard to get healthy again, I didn't want to have to work at having sex. I had a hysterectomy 20 years ago, so one would think it would be easier for me but that hasn't been the case. I do think a lot of it has to do with mindset and I'm as we would say, "just not in the mood." I told my doctor to save my vagina because women have the best orgasims after 50, because previous to my RC, that was my situation, but now I have little desire to initiate one. My spouse is being very patient but it has almost been a year now since we last had intercourse. I am wondering how this is going to impact our marriage...my spouse is 7 years younger than I am and Italian and not ready to give up sex with me.
Cynthia....Thanks for sharing your thoughts...you say it has been two years since your RC...wondering how long it took after the RC before you felt intercourse was
enjoyable, rather than painful. Thanks. Melodie