Tabby
Whew! I had to read your post and then step back for a few minutes to absorb your thoughts.
Yes you are too young to have bc. But so was I at 53.
Yes you DO need to find a Dr that you can trust and work with.(At first I didn't like my Dr. Then I spoke up for myself and told him I didn't want to be treated like a number. He came around)
But the biggest thing you need is to wrap your head around the fact that, you are in charge of your own recovery. You have a battle in front of you and if you are not in the right place, it will wear you down and it will win.
Please find friends, family, US, or a support group that can "team" up with you. Attitude is 50% of this battle. We want you to win.
And please don't think I am a "head in the clouds" happy. I know that there are times you get down and depressed. But you gotta get back up pretty quick and continue the fight.
As for being so young and having this crappy disease............. Your life will go on. The chances for you beating this are very high. It probably won't be easy. In fact, it is a pain in the ass. But, you will come out the other side, and you will be stronger for it.
Let's GO!
Sincerely
George