Caregivers

If you are reading this it is a good bet that you are someone who cares about someone who is dealing with a bladder cancer diagnosis. This website is dedicated to answering whatever questions you have about bladder cancer and its treatments and please remember that the social support community is meant for you as well as the survivor.

Someone I know once said that when her loved on got cancer that all his loved ones became cancer warriors also. It takes a whole army to fight bladder cancer medical professionals, survivor, loved ones, and their support network make up the core of this army, all have their jobs, no one person can take this journey alone.

Bladder cancer survivors come in all different shapes and sizes and their reaction to their diagnosis will all be varied also. Some will want every piece of information they can get their hands on some will not even want to talk about it with a just tell me what to do attitude, and everything in between. These differences will outline what they need from you. Please remember the following as you take this journey with your loved one.

• Knowledge is power in cancer treatment, if your survivor does not or cannot learn about their condition do it for them.
• There is no right or wrong way to talk to a cancer survivor, sometimes just letting us talk or just being there is all that is needed.
• Very few people remember what their doctor had to say during their appointment afterwards. Having someone to help them make up a list of questions and take notes during their appointment is invaluable.
• Worry, stress and sometimes medications during treatment can make it hard for many survivors to concentrate and stay organized. Pay attention and if the everyday things are not getting done an offer of help may be very welcome.
• Do not take it personally if we seem moody or preoccupied the emotional ramifications of a cancer diagnosis can be immense. But remember just because we have cancer does not give us the right to be abusive let us know if we are out of line.
• Take care of yourself; stress is not just for the person with the cancer diagnosis. Remember to deal with your stress and to get enough rest. Take time outs even if it is to take a walk or have a cup of coffee with a friend
• If you are stressed post about it on our forum it can help to share with others who know what you are dealing with. Or post a blog about your experiences in our blog section writing about your feelings can help relieve stress.